BTW, I created a ticker last night for the blog and put it up and ended up taking it down because I just don't feel ready. Weird?
The last first day of school
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Friday, March 19, 2010
When to tell?
Nobody but my BF knows we even attempted to do this FET so this pregnancy will be a huge shocker to everyone (parents are going to be stunned). My question to those of you who are pregnant or had babies is, when did you tell people? We were thinking of telling out parents on Mother's Day (I will be 11 1/2 weeks). I just thought that would be such a cool present but if I am having twins I don't know if I can hide it for that long. I know you are never technically "safe" but when are you pretty safe that nothing will happen? Should we wait until 12 weeks?? It's such a hard secret to keep.
BTW, I created a ticker last night for the blog and put it up and ended up taking it down because I just don't feel ready. Weird?
BTW, I created a ticker last night for the blog and put it up and ended up taking it down because I just don't feel ready. Weird?
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Mazel Tov!! congrats. Are you close to your parents? Personally my feelings have been very hurt when close friends did not tell me they were pregnant. And really if G-d forbid something bad happened would you never mention this to your parents?? I would wait to see a heartbeat and then I would tell!!!
Prayers for you
Jacky from md
I believe that once you see a heartbeat the risk of m/c goes down.
I am praying for you-- a safe happy 9 months!!
Jacky (again)
Congrats!
I think a lot do wait until 12 weeks.. but its really something you will know when the time is right..
I am 23 weeks right now and the "grandparents" will be finding out at about 25 weeks..
So happy for you.. wishing you a happy and healthy pregnancy.
Those are some awesome numbers :)
I have no experience in telling but waiting 12 weeks is most likely what I would do. I love the idea of telling on Mother's Day :)
I'm so freaking happy for you.
There's an award for you on my blog.
We waited to tell our parents until after the first u/s around 9 weeks since the chances of m/c after an "all good" 8w u/s is pretty low. Though, I did tell my 2 BFFs earlier since I needed advice!
I think telling them at 11.5 weeks on Mother's day is a great idea! You'll be close to the 2nd tri and will probably have had a few u/s by then :o)
So excited for you!!!
Dude, you are pregnant! Enjoy it and put up a ticker! :)
We told our parents at 7 weeks (after u/s), but swore them to not tell a soul. I told my girlfriends at a baby shower for one of our friends at 11.5 weeks. Everyone else we told right after that.
I think 11.5 weeks is doable...you'll be able to hide it until then I think, even if it is twins. :)
I love that we get to talk about this! How are you feeling?? Still crazy hungry? I was until 6 weeks and then the nausea set in.
DH and I have no will power. With Stella we told everyone right away because people knew we'd done IVF. With this surprise BFP we told our parents right away but waited a bit to tell everyone else. Funny since I was further along in pregnancy this time around when I even found out I was pregnant.
Our reasoning for telling people right away was that even if something did happen, we'd want the support of friends and family to help get through it. It's such a personal decision.
I think telling your parents on Mother's day would be so special and would create a lasting memory.
We had no willpower either and told our families the night we got our BFP. They knew we had done IVF, and we were just so excited we couldn't wait. Congrats!!
We told our parents right away, but they knew that we were having the FET. As far as others, I told those that knew about my IF after the first u/s. I told the world around 8 weeks, after we had a few u/s under our belt. It is really up to you. Once you feel comfortable, shout it from the rooftops! Congrats, again!
Our family and really close friends knew we were cycling - so they knew right away that we were expecting.
We told the rest of the world at 11 weeks. I was in a big funk after everything we had been dealing with and Alex thought it would be good for me to share the good news.
There is no right or wrong answer - tell when you are comfortable.
-Lindsey
It's up to you and your husband.
We told our families and friend's after my BFP (blood test) at 4 weeks. We were infertile for 5 yrs then, so I felt that God had given us this miracle, He wasn't going to take it away.
I like other people's posts of, "You are pregnant, rejoice and celebrate."
If something "good or bad" is going to happen, it's going to happen. BE HAPPY FOR TODAY!
We told at 8 weeks. I wanted to wait longer, but my sister was leaving the country and I wanted her to know before she left.
We told parents and some close friends right away. We waited to tell everyone else until after 11 weeks. I think you will be safe by mother's day to tell everyone.
Because we had been trying for nearly 7 yrs and 11 IVF transfers we told everyone. But we really should of waited until the first scan. Most wait till 12 weeks.
We had bleeds at 8, 10, 11w and was told that is the time that most m/c accure..but we were fine until 18w then had him at 25w. So to be honest......when are we safe!
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